If only you had the power to read the mind of your loved one, you would know what they want; why anger is flashing on their forehead; why tears are lurking in the corner of their eyes; why they no longer find joy in your presence; why they still consider you to be the best thing that ever happened to them.

Because you don’t have the power to read their mind, you can only know these things if they communicate them. In the same vein, they can only know what you are going through; what you are feeling; what you want; what you need; if you communicate.

Minds converse through words but hearts converse through feelings. Hellen Keller, the blind and deaf American author once said that, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”

Communication that encompasses both the mind and heart, is the oxygen of a relationship. Elizabeth Bourgeret, an American author echoed this principle in powerful words, ‘Communication is the lifeline of any relationship. Without it, the relation will starve itself to death.’ Indeed, don’t allow your relationship to starve to death due to bad communication between you two. If you want to keep that passion alive, work continually on your communication.  Remember, “Communication works for those who work at it.” These words of John Powell the English film producer remind us that communication doesn’t just occur on its own. We must keep working on it. Nurturing it. Watering it.

As you work on your communication, remember that it’s not just about the words exchanged between you two. Its also about the spirit accompanying those words. Barack Obama captured it beautifully, “It’s important to make sure that we’re talking with each other in a way that heals, not in a way that wounds.”

“A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.”

These words by Dr. Greg Reid are completely on point.

Let’s take a second look at your dream. Maybe its realization continues to elude you despite your best efforts. Or maybe your best intentions are not resulting in your best efforts, which makes you wonder if you have what it takes to make your dreams come true. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that now, at this moment, you purpose to give it your all. To try your best even if it feels like your best is not good enough. Write down that dream. Not just on paper or in your computer but also in your heart. Meditation is the pen with which you can write your dream into your heart. Make it a habit to meditate - think deeply - about your dream. This will translate the dream into a goal that you believe in. A goal that you are passionate about. Now go ahead and break that goal into actual concrete steps. This will give you an actionable plan that you can execute. After that, all that you have to do is take action. Implement your plan. That first step, however small, will get you closer to realization of your dream.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

What exactly did I do with that five hundred shillings ($5)? This is a question that I have asked myself too many times, as have millions of others in some corner of the world. Money is a weird creature. To some people, it grows wings and flies away without warning. But to others, it grows roots and stubbornly lingers on in their wallets, purses and bank accounts. 

Here is one way to understand what you can do so that your money can grow roots, not wings. If you are driving and you lose control of your car, maybe because the brakes have failed, it will crash. That is exactly what happens when you lose control over your money – it crashes and you crash with it. If you want your money to grow roots, don’t lose control over it. As Dave Ramsey, an American radio host put it memorably, ‘You must gain control over your money or the lack of it will forever control you.’

But how on earth can we gain control over money. My sister Liz, who is a celebrated money manager, had this to say, ‘I STRICTLY work with budgets. I have a MISCELLANEOUS as part of my budget for any 'unplanned ' purchases I may make. For me, mostly usually kids goodies. I am also an enemy of debts.’ Nathan W. Morris, a personal finance expert concurs with her on that last point, ‘Every time you borrow money, you're robbing your future self.’ This doesn’t mean that you should never borrow. Rather, only ‘rob’ your future self as a strategic necessity, not casual indulgence.

May the beautiful breeze of sound financial planning cause your money to grow roots not wings.

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“With persistence, a drop of water hollows out the stone,” so goes an ancient Greek proverb. Imagine that. A tiny drop of water conquers a mighty rock, not because of its elephantine strength but because of its consistency.

That unwavering drop of water epitomizes the power of consistency. Consistency means that you keep doing it. And doing it. And doing it. If you keep doing it, you will triumph mightily. So pick anything that you wish to achieve in life, then just keep doing it and you will achieve it.

Do you want to build that dream house? Picture it vividly, then keep taking little steps that will translate that vision into reality. Save 100 shillings ($1) every day. Then at the end of the month buy that 3000 shillings ($30) chandelier that you have envisioned for your bedroom in the dream house. Of course you can’t just limit yourself to this $1 daily saving because it would take you several lifetimes to complete that house. The consistency of saving that $1 will inspire in you additional strategies for raising revenue for that house. When you take consistent steps towards your destination, new sights will keep emerging from the horizon.

It doesn’t matter how big your goal is. What matters is the bigness of your consistency in actualizing that goal.

May the beautiful breeze of consistency inspire you to conquer new horizons in the journey of your life.

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Your knees hurt. There is a tingly feeling in them, as if a little river is squirming through them, leaving some throbbing pain in its trail. Arthritis? Hopefully not. At 26, aren’t you too young to have arthritis?

Your back hurts. It’s as if it’s suffering from attention deficit and is therefore aching full time to remind you of its presence. With every throb that feels like some invisible hammering, the back is saying, ‘I may be behind you but I matter, so pay attention to me!’

There are little cockroaches crawling all over your stomach. That’s the uncomfortable, mildly painful feeling in your stomach. Like baby crumps. It’s been this way for days, which is affecting your ability to focus on other things. In fact, you have had to miss you weekly morning run because of this.

The body wears and tears. But the good news is that you can play a role in slowing down this wearing and tearing. In some instances, you can even eradicate aspects of it. In other words, you have the power to inject health and fitness into your body and keep disease at bay. And you know what, one of the most powerful ways that you can do this is simply by walking. Yes, walking.

According to Mayo Clinic, walking helps in maintaining a healthy weight; preventing or managing various conditions including heart disease, high blood pressure and type 2 diabetes; strengthening bones and muscles; improving your balance and coordination. And you know what, walking also helps in improving your mood.

This week, walk a little bit more than last week. This year, walk a little bit more than last year. Walk all the way into better health, better fitness and better moods. Because my father has been walking for the last seven decades, he looks and feels one decade younger. And he is almost always in a great mood!

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Ambition is highly skilled in hide and seek. Sometimes you find it lurking behind deep thoughts or in some corner of your heart. But other times, its nowhere to be seen. Edmund Burke, the eighteenth century Irish philosopher once said that ‘ambition can creep and soar.’ Indeed, it can creep into your heart and spill over into your days drop by drop barely fueling focused and diligent action from you. Or it can soar like an eagle into your heart and lift you up into months of sheer diligence and focus.

Is your ambition creeping like a caterpillar or soaring like an eagle? Do you wake up with a clear goal for the day; for the week; for the month; for the year; for your life? Do you throw everything within you towards the attainment of that goal? Whenever you stumble, do you wake and keep going? If your answer to any of these questions is ‘no,’ worry not. Tomorrow, you can delete the ‘no’ and replace it with a ‘yes.’ You can do so through those three magical words, ‘sheer hard work.’ Remember the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, that nineteenth century American essayist, ‘without ambition, one starts nothing; without work, one finishes nothing.’ Tomorrow, work a little bit harder than you did today. That will fix your broken ambition and get you a little bit closer to realization of your goals. That’s how dreams come true.

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A thousand small, little broken pieces. That’s the state of your heart. A grenade of ‘love gone wrong’ landed into it and shattered it. All you have now are memories of those delicious dawns when you would stir awake next to your loved one. Or those terrific times when laughter would sweep you into each other’s arms. Then that grenade landed into your heart and broke it into a thousand pieces. It has happened and you must now move on.

Remember these words by Hereclitus the Greek Philosopher, ‘You could not step twice into the same river.’

Stop trying to step twice into the same river of love. If you step out of that river, you will feel a breeze. A beautiful breeze that can heal your broken heart. The breeze of life. Your life. Step out of that river and immerse yourself into life. Seize your life with both arms and live it fully. It will lead you into another river of love where love will flow and grow. But you can’t reach that river if you insist on remaining in the old river, even after the love is long gone and is non-existent. Step out of that river into the beautiful breeze of your life. This breeze will lead you to the new river, where love awaits you. To flow and grow with you.