If only you had the power to read the mind of your loved one, you would know what they want; why anger is flashing on their forehead; why tears are lurking in the corner of their eyes; why they no longer find joy in your presence; why they still consider you to be the best thing that ever happened to them.
Because you don’t have the power to read their mind, you can only know these things if they communicate them. In the same vein, they can only know what you are going through; what you are feeling; what you want; what you need; if you communicate.
Minds converse through words but hearts converse through feelings. Hellen Keller, the blind and deaf American author once said that, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”
Communication that encompasses both the mind and heart, is the oxygen of a relationship. Elizabeth Bourgeret, an American author echoed this principle in powerful words, ‘Communication is the lifeline of any relationship. Without it, the relation will starve itself to death.’ Indeed, don’t allow your relationship to starve to death due to bad communication between you two. If you want to keep that passion alive, work continually on your communication. Remember, “Communication works for those who work at it.” These words of John Powell the English film producer remind us that communication doesn’t just occur on its own. We must keep working on it. Nurturing it. Watering it.
As you work on your communication, remember that it’s not just about the words exchanged between you two. Its also about the spirit accompanying those words. Barack Obama captured it beautifully, “It’s important to make sure that we’re talking with each other in a way that heals, not in a way that wounds.”